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Monday Blues // Learning Day

It’s the Monday after Spring Break.

Back to school and only three weeks left of this semester.

Making sure assignment are in line for the due dates.

Making sure you get to campus early so you can get that perfect parking spot.

Preparing ourselves for that “mental” breakdown because…. finals are approaching.

But why is it before Spring Break none of this stuff really seemed to matter.

Checking those school emails,

“Summer payments due soon”

or maybe you receive that email from the professor about that upcoming research paper or a reminder about that in front of the class presentation – better yet, a lightening bolt went off in your head, Wait… “we have a quiz this week?”

oh but wait, finally, a “good” news email, which brings some hope, “Don’t forget to petition to graduate.” What a breath of fresh air that brings after seeing “payment deadline” or “test this Thursday.”

You made it thru the stressful Monday, now go grab yourself that Starbucks coffee because you deserve it.. and so does the inconsiderate person behind you that is laying down their horn at you because you are passionately waiting for the barista to hand over your coffee – maybe they need it more than me. It really makes me think how people can be so inconsiderate and rude and not feel any time of remorse for their actions. As my mom would say, “they need Jesus.” Yes, that they do.

My reaction, I waved.

I find it crazy how one “bad” thing can lead to a whole showcase of bad news or make you feel as if the world is crashing down on you and nothing is going right. You just want to crawl in your bed and shut off from the world the rest of the day.  Why? Why do we let one thing determine the rest of our day or mood? Maybe it’s because that one bad thing or bad news automatically puts you in a foul mood, so anything you touch, say and do will never be good enough for you that day?

Self-check… what I may stress about may be the littlest specks of what one may be stressing about. How foolish of me to think “paying for school,” “I’ve gotta do good on this upcoming test,” “I haven’t even studied yet for this final,” “man the jerk behind is really irking my nerves,” is the cause of my whole “bad” mood kind of day when someone may be just as stressed or if not more about paying for the house payment or saving every bit of money so they won’t be evicted from their apartment.

Here I am complaining about these little things when I can just sit back and breathe and know this stressing isn’t going to do me a bit of good. I’m not helping myself by doing this, I am hindering myself.

So I am not going to say it was a “bad” day, I will say it was a “learning” day.

Learning to cope with the bad and turn it around to see what I can do to fix the issue.

Pray about the “issue” and move on. Don’t dwell on it.

Smile

Keep the chin up. It’s just a “learning” day.

If you read my past blog regarding sunsets and sunrises, yes, I am spending my quite time embrassing this captivating scenery.

Brittany

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Listen To Your Emotions

Our emotions serve as an essential function that connects us to what is truly important – for they remain an important role in our life.

Emotions communicate to others. We know when to feel sad, happy, anxious, scared, and confused. It’s our human nature.

Emotions motivate our actions. Having fear motivates our impulse to turn/run away. Sadness motivates us to heal. Anger motivates us to protect ourself. Happiness motivates us to gravitate to what is making us happy.

Humans naturally and automatically move towards what feels good, and away from what feels bad, including emotions.

I came across an awesome guideline to our emotions and how it teaches us.

Bitterness: Shows you where you need to heal, where you’re still holding on judgment on others and yourself.

Resentment: Shows that you are living in the past and not letting the present to be as it is.

Anger: Shows you what you are passionate about, where your boundaries are, and what you believe needs to change.

Disappointment: Shows that you are tired of something that you still care for.

Discomfort: Shows that you need to pay attention right now to what is happening. It shows you to do something different than what you typically do.

Anxiety: Shows that you need to wake up and that you need to be present in the now. Also, that you are stuck in the past and living with the fear of the future.

Sadness: Shows you the depth of your feelings, emotions and the depth of your care and compassionate to others.

It is because of our emotions how we react to what we think and do.

It’s okay to be upset

It’s okay to be angry

It’s okay to feel stuck

It’s okay to feel confused

It’s okay to feel lonely

It’s okay to feel hurt

It’s okay to cry

It’s okay to not be okay

Above ALL of these. Be kind, be true, be easy on yourself and refuse to let negative feelings trigger.

When I am grumpy – I miss out on goodness around me.

When I am angry – I miss out on love.

Side note –

Meaning behind my choice of featured photo. I love sunsets. I love sunrises. It’s an escape for me from reality. The nastiness, the meanness, and the chaos in the world. It calms me in a way where I find myself lost in the mystery of God’s grace and love. When I am captivated by the artwork of His doing the world around me is shut out and it’s only me and God talking.

All my cares. All my worries. All my fears. They are laid at His feet.

I’ve backslid from just that. I forget how peaceful I become when shutting off from the world for just 30 minutes and just sitting in awe of His masterpiece. That’s all it takes, I ask myself? WOW! Just 30 minutes of my morning or my night to just sit in quietness and peace to enjoy the sunset/sunrise.

Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalms 51:10

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The Problem With Pulling The Kind Card

Have you ever met or been around someone who you find so hard to appease, maybe they’re attitude/ personality is cringingly painful to be around…  OK that may sound harsh but I am being serious right now.

I am here to tell you. We all are surrounded by negativity and mean people – it’s hard to run from. However, it’s how we go about handling the negative that’s around us and the people that we associate with.

You are better off without that! We all are!

As much as we should desire to be kind and giving, sometimes it can be difficult to do just that in our time of day that we live in. We want to be good stewards but we don’t want to be taken advantage of. Like many times in life, this requires a delicate balance of assertiveness and servitude.

If you are heavy on that assertiveness maybe try being a little less sub servant today by allowing others to express themselves more.

I have been told how nice I am my entire life and I love receiving this sweet comment because I am nice. In fact, throughout my life, I’ve tried my best to be kind, caring, empathetic and helpful to just about everyone I come in contact with. My character is very important to be to uphold. These qualities are the bedrock on which much of my identity is based.

But when is being “nice” become “too nice?

“nice” is always good – “too nice” is not

No one want’s to be taken advantage of and maybe being “too nice” can lead to just that and also, heartache, disappointment, and confusion.

The problem with being too nice is that it gives room for others to find you as an easy pushover or someone who is easy to be slick with.

Some may do kind gestures for kind gestures in return… although that is OK, don’t waste your time expecting the same in return with some. If you find yourself as a giving, giving, and giving person but we don’t really get nothing in return, we can easily grow bitter toward the people we constantly are nice toward. Because we don’t see the appreciation, we may feel like we’ve been wronged.

Ways to avoid falling into the “too nice” category

  1. Know when you are taking advantage of
  2. Kindness should be rooted. Be kind in general, not just when it’s being expected
  3. Speak your mind
  4. Have strong self-esteem

Be good toward others without being self-sacrificial.