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Journey of Love

Every girl dreams about “the one.” The one to share laughs, worries, and cries with, one to grow old with. It’s the Prince Charming on the Disney movies that we watched when we were kids… “Still do!” We all want love, right? And maybe some fall in love with the wrong ones and quickly come to terms of knowing what they deserve and maybe, there are some who say they “love” and have somewhat of a desire to be with that person fully however, they are hesitant to put a label on themselves as “one” maybe because they are guarding themselves against past experiences, or simply struggling with the action of “love” and what it all entails. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Love is freely given, it’s not a golden gift or earned! We Love because He first loved us! It all goes back to God’s love for us! That precious love that He had shed on that cross!

Prior to meeting my one, I was working on myself. I was working on myself so I can be whole when I meet the right one. I was working on my relationship with my main man, God. I prayed for my future husband, that he may be strong and faithful in his walk with the Lord and also, that he will be a man who will take my hand and pray with me, who will encourage me when I get discouraged, who is not afraid to speak truth and correct me when I am wrong. ALL IN HIS TIMING, His love is forever faithful!

It’s so easy to feel discouraged when everyone else around you has found love, and yet, you have not. I’ve been there. I know it’s not fun… But in those times, that’s when God is working. Molding and growing you to be that spouse for your “one.”

I finally gave it to God. Laid it in His hands and trusted that His timing is ALWAYS perfect. Not anyone else’s, His alone!

I use to always get,  “You’re way too picky!” You darn right I was picky…. because I knew what I deserved and I was not backing down from that… and I see now why patience is the true virtue.

I sit here now writing this to say, wait for His timing! In His timing, He has blessed me with my one and only and that one and only is truly remarkable and get’s me the way no one else will!

I met Alex back in early September 2016 and we started dating on October 17, 2016. Since then, I fall more in love with him and have learned more about him every day. It’s a pure joy!  His heart, his gentle words, his intelligence, his witty jokes, his corny flirts, and overall his love for the Lord and his enduring love that he constantly shows towards me is something I am so blessed to call MINE!

I knew from the moment I met him that I was going to marry him! No way I was going to let him go.

These sweet eight months have been absolutely fabulous. No, it hasn’t been all glitz and glamor. Every relationship is a work in progress. It takes patience, prayer, and forgiveness. No one is perfect, we all are sinners and we all make mistakes. It’s been fabulous because I see God through our relationship, I see a pure love from my man and it’s not only through the words, it’s the actions. It’s the sweet moments when we connect on a deeper level, it’s the moments when we share laughs and cries and just hold each other in that moment. It’s the feeling of feeling at home in his embrace. It’s the act of knowing “everything is going to be OK.” It’s looking at him and knowing exactly what he is thinking. It’s the feeling of the anticipation to be back in his arms. It’s the look in his eyes when he sees me! It’s the kind of love every girl deserves to have and to feel! It’s the kind of love that was definitely worth the wait.

From the beginning of our relationship, we both have grown together with our walk with the Lord, because if it wasn’t for him, we would all squander. Stronger love for God, stronger love for each other!

Not only is he my one and only, he is my best friend, my person, and my heart.

As of June 10, 2017, I am now a fiance to my man. I am so utterly blessed for him and his constant love he has for me! Gosh, I love being loved by you baby!

I know everyone is different, but why wait when you know you have found the one?? I mean I can marry him tomorrow, that’s how sure I am of knowing he is the perfectly made one for me.

Alex,

Besides of the excitement that comes with the wedding night, I look forward to coming home to you, I look forward to being a home with you, I look forward to hearing your voice every day, I look forward to spending every day with you, I look forward to a “good morning” or a “goodnight” in person, I look forward to praying with you, I look forward to going to church with you and coming back home with you, I look forward to growing with you, I look forward to movie nights, I look forward to sleepless nights, I look forward to acting like little kids with you,  I also look forward to the struggles that we will face with marriage.. that might sound a bit absurd, but I say that because it will only strengthen us as one.

I am so excited to share so many memories with you. I am so excited to laugh with you, to cry with you, to be mad, to explore, and to love you even more than I already do. I am excited to grow as a person and a couple together and to find new ways to be a better wife in your eyes.

With you Alex,

I am at home! I am safe! I can’t wait to make you mine forever!

When I feel my lowest, you bring out the best in me. When I am sad I can look to you and this big smile can suddenly appear on my face. You are the reason my bad days become beautiful.

I love the way I can be myself around you, my crazy, stupid, silly, emotional, hard-headed self. I love that you appreciate everything I have to give and love me for being me. I love that I can look at you and not want to look at any other man.

Thank you for sticking by my side when I freak out over little tiny things and telling me “calm down, it’s Ok.”

Thank you for making me feel like the most beautiful girl in the world and a princess in your eyes.

I am so excited to spend the rest of my life with you and sing horribly to you and know that you will look at me like I am the cutest person in the world. You say, “You can hit some notes..” HAHA! I love you.

I can’t promise you that I will be the perfect wife, but what I can promise you is to love you fully and be with you always through the good and bad. Always encourage, lead, and motivate you to be your better self. I promise to build faith. To trust. To hope and dream the craziest dreams with you.
Thank you for making me feel like your top priority Alex. It’s important to me. 🙂
I love you,
Your Fiance
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Dear Younger Me

Matthew 8:26

He replied, “You of little faith, why are you so afraid?” Then he got up and rebuked the winds and the waves, and it was completely calm.

Psalms 139: 14

I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.

As I look back on the previous years, I just sit back and laugh and also cry.

As I am getting older. Growing out of my worn out shell. Learning and molding into the Godly young lady I am today. I take a minute to reflect back on the younger days of my life. As a child. As a teen. As a wanna be adult.

A thought that came to mind is, what would I tell my younger self now? Looking back, I had a great childhood. Parents who loved me. Great friends. Always involved in something. However,  worry also was present. Worrying about the future, what about college, what about learning and living on my own, doing things for myself, finding the right man – someone who will love me crazy, balancing life and the temptations, etc. You name it. We all worry about something.

So here it goes, to you

I know you must have some role model, right? I know I loved Hannah Montana and Hillary Duff. I mean… at that time who wouldn’t want to be them. It felt as if they had life figured out… wrong. They are humans and so are you. Although, it’s OK to have role models just be careful when is consumes you to wanting to become someone you are not.

Also, embrace your love for imagination, it’ll go along way. Make that tent outside. Maybe sleep on the trampoline. Grab your dads hand and have a daddy-daughter date. Those are the best. Trust me! ((Daddy’s girl))

Be creative. The playdo that you play with, be creative. The princess castle, go beyond your imagination. The spirit of creativity will serve you well my child. Never loose your creative touch.

That bird, dog, cat, etc that you are trying to draw. Don’t get frustrated. Don’t just walk away from it. You got it. You never know what your hidden talents are until you work at it.

OK, so sports. For me, I was a cheerleader and a gymnast. Whichever it is, go at it with all that you got. Remember, practice always triumphs over failure. That backhand spring. Yeah you might fall on your knees multiple times until the one out of ten times you land on your feet. YAY. Keep at it. Soon you’ll be landing perfectly ten out of ten times.

You want to be a lawyer? You’ve must have seen Legally Blonde 🙂 “Harvard Law School” That was the dream job back then. You change your mind multiple times regarding what you want to be when you grow up. We all do.

To those who condemn you on your choice of career path or any life decision, smile at them. It’s not their life, it’s yours. Just pray about the choices before you make them.

When it comes to pleasing people. Don’t you dare bother. Be polite and nice, of course. Never be a doormat. You cannot please everybody. Focus on you first. Make sure you are the one that is happy. You are not living for them, you are living for God.

Please God.

When you stay up to 2 a.m. in the morning because of studying, close your eyes. You need some rest. Pray.

When it comes to comparing yourself.

How uncool it is that you think you are ugly. God made you perfectly in His image.

How you wish you didn’t have freckles or the gap between your teeth. How you wish you were skinnier.

Those who pick at you for your glasses, short hair, teeth, looks, etc. how dare them. Don’t you dare let that interfere with knowing who you are in Christ and who you are as a person. You are beautiful and perfectly flawed.

You will learn to be gentle with yourself. You’ll also learn how to love the body that you are in.

And later down the road, the right guy is going to love you and think you are beautiful the way that you are.

There will be people who you won’t always agree with and that’s OK.

Let go of the need to control and manipulate–you’ll never change anything that way.

Pray instead, let God fight for His own children.

It’s not your job, it’ll never be your job. SO give it up.

Be thankful that you have a mom and dad who love you and adore you. You are their daughter.  Thank your mom and dad for their unconditional support that they continue to show. Never take it for granite. They do a lot for you.

I know your parents drive you crazy sometimes. You drive them crazy too. Recognize that you’re all so different and all stubborn, and it’s usually worth just saying OK.

You’ll be on your own in time, and then you can load your dishwasher, fold your clothes, make your bead, eat when you want too, and go when you want to as infrequently as you want–for now, be respectful.

Speaking of your parents, all of their different and weird quirks? Yeah, you’ll inherit them. Embrace it sister. It will come.

I know at some point in your life you’ll experience all sorts of emotions.. all at once too, maybe. Hormones, dear lord, a lot of feelings and life itself is all too overwhelming for you to soak in sometimes. When you experience those overwhelming times and when things fell out of hand find your peace in the Lord, your joy in Him, find your strength, your purpose, your identity in Him, and you’ll make it. I promise.

Time goes by fast. Look how far you have come and be thankful for another day of His goodness. You’ve got your whole life ahead of you. Don’t stop dreaming. Do want you want to do. One life, Live it well.

In closing, I want to appreciate my younger self and also congratulate her. She is strong. She is mighty. She is a lover of life.

I am thankful for the hardships because it has led me to be the stronger woman I am today.

I am thankful for the wrongs I’ve done, the mistakes I have made, because it’s taught me wisdom.

In the end, the things we worry about before seem so small to us now.

In time,

God will provide and answer your prayers. Be patient.

Xoxo,

Brittany

 

 

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Molding Myself to Be More Like Him {Spiritual Rawness}

Valuable (Real Talk)

Isaiah 1:17

“Learn to do good; seek justice, correct oppression; bring justice to the fatherless, plead the widow’s cause.”

How do you spend your time in the word? 

Do you receive the spiritual high from a bible study and feel as if that’s enough?
Do you spend time here and there in the word when things are crazy in life?
Do you spend time whenever you feel like it? Whenever it’s convenient?
Do you spend time at all?
The sad part is… most of us have all the intentions to spend quality time in His word, and some of us create habit to do just that but some never do. We set aside time out of our schedule to purposely dig into the word. That high may last weeks or months. It’s like a spiritual high. You are on fire to learn more.

For some, the “digging in His word” becomes an involuntary thing, your priority is set to uphold the readings of His word. However, for others, it may be a struggle to find that time. If that is so, we are basically saying, “God, we have no time for you.”

However, relaying back to “having all the intentions to spend quality time with Him,” some never do. Is it because we are too lazy or do we put other matters before Him? I know for me, I can say both. Life gets in the way and the more and more I put it off it becomes easier to do. Sad!

How can we be a better advocate for Christ and not put our own time into studying His word? In order for us to grow in His footsteps we must take action in learning more about Him and His love.

Hypocrite, that’s what we are. We say we are infatuated with his Love

We say “I love you Lord”

We say “Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins”

We say “Amen”

We say all these things, but yet, how can we grow as Christian’s when we aren’t doing anything in order for us to grow?

Most of us are at a standstill in our relationship with Him. Some are struggling with trusting. Actually,  a majority of us are. That’s where control comes into play. Control is the thief of allowing our burdens, cares, and worries at His feet.

We have our own self desires that come into play with our: Relationships, Work, School, Play, Etc. but what if our desires allow a Godly take on what we say and what we do within those desires.

For Us

His love is rich

His love is strong

His love is free

His love is never-ending

Why is it we shield away from what we know is good for us? Is it a voluntary action that we do or do we allow Satan and other worldly matters stand in the way of what truly matters?

Spiritually naked, that’s how God sees us.

Jeremiah 17:10 says, “I the Lord search the heart and examine the mind, to reward each person according to their conduct, according to what their deeds deserve.”

He sees everything:

He sees our heart and the reasons why we do what we do.

He sees our worry

He sees our wadded up insecurities

He knows when we second guess our actions

What are the opportunities that we have in front of us that we constantly look away from?

To be a strong Christian, we must live wisely

As christians, are we constantly surrounded by non believers? YES. Constantly we come in contact.

Do we tell them the good news about Jesus, the news that allowed us to be forgiven and redeemed?

Seeking God and Speak Faithfully

Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” – Genesis 2:18

I want to grow stronger to be the woman of God that I need to be.

For my boyfriend, future husband, better half. 

Grow stronger in:

Praying for him. Praying with him. Grow and prosper with him. Learn with him. Be a leader. Be a listener. Be understanding. Pray for Godly words. Be a team. Love. Be a Woman after Gods own heart.

For my Family.

Grow stronger in:

Faith. Choosing words wisely. Words that inspire. Praying for them. Encourage them. Grow. Being a stronger Christian daughter. Understanding.

We should all aim to be that strong advocate that displays Christ.

Be Christ-Centered
Be confident in Christ
Showing strength in standing up for what’s right and wrong
Be encouraging
Be nice
Be independent
Invest in that which last. Invest in those who you love.

Out of love rebuke those who are wrong. Encourage. Stay humble. Be aware of when pride sneaks in.  “Don’t think less of yourself but thank of yourself less.”

“Has not my hand made all these things, and so they came into being?” declares the LORD. “These arc the ones I look on with favor: those who are humble and contrite in spirit, and who tremble at my word.” – Isaiah 66:2

Live to please Him only. Serve the Lord and the works of His goodness.

Love God first and foremost!

His love is greater – our love for Him needs to be greater too.

Xoxo,

Brittany

 

 

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To My Man, Alex

An instant connection
I was drawn to you
Babe, do you even know just how much you mean to me?
If you have the slightest clue
I can’t tell you near enough that I love you
There is much more behind those three words
I’m trying to let you know how much you are adored by me and how cherished I am for the sweet time we spend together
You mean the world to me
Do you know that you smile gets me all the time
Do you know that every day I love you more
A closeness to you
A safe place with you
I hope you know that you mean the world to me
Just knowing your mine and I am yours should be enough
To me you mean everything
In you-
I see dignity
I see strength
I see passion
I see you, the good and the rough-edged parts
I love you for all your forms
Though everyone will experience their own ups and downs
I will be the one standing by you, never doubt
Yes true love is more than butterflies and long kisses
It’s about conquering the roughest rides
Holding one’s hand through the storm
It’s about loving strong through the good and the bad times
I never asked for much, just for someone to hold me tight and see me through. To look at my naked soul and love me from within.
Once I found you, an instant connection I was automatically drawn to you
To live with you is what I want all my life
You are my best friend
You are my lover
You are mine
You are the reason for the butterflies in my stomach
You are the reason for the smile on my face
I love you
– Brittany
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Listen To Your Emotions

Our emotions serve as an essential function that connects us to what is truly important – for they remain an important role in our life.

Emotions communicate to others. We know when to feel sad, happy, anxious, scared, and confused. It’s our human nature.

Emotions motivate our actions. Having fear motivates our impulse to turn/run away. Sadness motivates us to heal. Anger motivates us to protect ourself. Happiness motivates us to gravitate to what is making us happy.

Humans naturally and automatically move towards what feels good, and away from what feels bad, including emotions.

I came across an awesome guideline to our emotions and how it teaches us.

Bitterness: Shows you where you need to heal, where you’re still holding on judgment on others and yourself.

Resentment: Shows that you are living in the past and not letting the present to be as it is.

Anger: Shows you what you are passionate about, where your boundaries are, and what you believe needs to change.

Disappointment: Shows that you are tired of something that you still care for.

Discomfort: Shows that you need to pay attention right now to what is happening. It shows you to do something different than what you typically do.

Anxiety: Shows that you need to wake up and that you need to be present in the now. Also, that you are stuck in the past and living with the fear of the future.

Sadness: Shows you the depth of your feelings, emotions and the depth of your care and compassionate to others.

It is because of our emotions how we react to what we think and do.

It’s okay to be upset

It’s okay to be angry

It’s okay to feel stuck

It’s okay to feel confused

It’s okay to feel lonely

It’s okay to feel hurt

It’s okay to cry

It’s okay to not be okay

Above ALL of these. Be kind, be true, be easy on yourself and refuse to let negative feelings trigger.

When I am grumpy – I miss out on goodness around me.

When I am angry – I miss out on love.

Side note –

Meaning behind my choice of featured photo. I love sunsets. I love sunrises. It’s an escape for me from reality. The nastiness, the meanness, and the chaos in the world. It calms me in a way where I find myself lost in the mystery of God’s grace and love. When I am captivated by the artwork of His doing the world around me is shut out and it’s only me and God talking.

All my cares. All my worries. All my fears. They are laid at His feet.

I’ve backslid from just that. I forget how peaceful I become when shutting off from the world for just 30 minutes and just sitting in awe of His masterpiece. That’s all it takes, I ask myself? WOW! Just 30 minutes of my morning or my night to just sit in quietness and peace to enjoy the sunset/sunrise.

Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalms 51:10

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The Problem With Pulling The Kind Card

Have you ever met or been around someone who you find so hard to appease, maybe they’re attitude/ personality is cringingly painful to be around…  OK that may sound harsh but I am being serious right now.

I am here to tell you. We all are surrounded by negativity and mean people – it’s hard to run from. However, it’s how we go about handling the negative that’s around us and the people that we associate with.

You are better off without that! We all are!

As much as we should desire to be kind and giving, sometimes it can be difficult to do just that in our time of day that we live in. We want to be good stewards but we don’t want to be taken advantage of. Like many times in life, this requires a delicate balance of assertiveness and servitude.

If you are heavy on that assertiveness maybe try being a little less sub servant today by allowing others to express themselves more.

I have been told how nice I am my entire life and I love receiving this sweet comment because I am nice. In fact, throughout my life, I’ve tried my best to be kind, caring, empathetic and helpful to just about everyone I come in contact with. My character is very important to be to uphold. These qualities are the bedrock on which much of my identity is based.

But when is being “nice” become “too nice?

“nice” is always good – “too nice” is not

No one want’s to be taken advantage of and maybe being “too nice” can lead to just that and also, heartache, disappointment, and confusion.

The problem with being too nice is that it gives room for others to find you as an easy pushover or someone who is easy to be slick with.

Some may do kind gestures for kind gestures in return… although that is OK, don’t waste your time expecting the same in return with some. If you find yourself as a giving, giving, and giving person but we don’t really get nothing in return, we can easily grow bitter toward the people we constantly are nice toward. Because we don’t see the appreciation, we may feel like we’ve been wronged.

Ways to avoid falling into the “too nice” category

  1. Know when you are taking advantage of
  2. Kindness should be rooted. Be kind in general, not just when it’s being expected
  3. Speak your mind
  4. Have strong self-esteem

Be good toward others without being self-sacrificial. 
 

 

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Overcome and Becoming 

As Christians, we face many struggles and bumps in the road every day.

So what should we do when we are faced with these trials and tests? The scripture tells us, all things work together for good to them that love God to them who are the called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28).”

However, when we are faced with these trials, we may ask “Why” me Lord, why am I always faced with these testing situations?

God will never give you more than you can handle. I too have to remind myself that!

The Bible says;
“And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13)

God strengthens our patience and matures us as Christians in character and He forever leads us into an enhanced assurance of His love.

Through faithfulness in times of trial men become “approved” in God’s sight.

The honest truth!

Those who seek Jesus will not be without challenges. In fact, we may be faced with even MORE challenges. However, with these challenges let it all lead you to the cross, and know that He is there for you.

Sometimes it’s hard for us to do because we like that control. It’s our human instinct to want some sort of control – right? We like to handle our own problems and solve/figure out the mess that we are drowning in. Gosh if you really take a look at just that, that’s stress that we are putting on ourselves. If when we trust in His doings – we are letting go of that control.
God says, “My beloved, your fight is not against flesh and blood, but against evil forces in the spiritual realm. When you find yourself in the midst of a war, do not be afraid. Call on Me in prayer and allow Me to deliver you. In My timing, I will give you victory and bring justice to the afflicted.”

He says, here me my child, I’ve whispered in your ear a million times, here me, I’ve died for you. I love you and I will never leave you.

“I will shelter you. Trust me. Stay close to Me,” He says to me.

Xoxo,

Brittany