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Dear Younger Me

Matthew 8:26

He replied, “You of little faith, why are you so afraid?” Then he got up and rebuked the winds and the waves, and it was completely calm.

Psalms 139: 14

I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.

As I look back on the previous years, I just sit back and laugh and also cry.

As I am getting older. Growing out of my worn out shell. Learning and molding into the Godly young lady I am today. I take a minute to reflect back on the younger days of my life. As a child. As a teen. As a wanna be adult.

A thought that came to mind is, what would I tell my younger self now? Looking back, I had a great childhood. Parents who loved me. Great friends. Always involved in something. However,  worry also was present. Worrying about the future, what about college, what about learning and living on my own, doing things for myself, finding the right man – someone who will love me crazy, balancing life and the temptations, etc. You name it. We all worry about something.

So here it goes, to you

I know you must have some role model, right? I know I loved Hannah Montana and Hillary Duff. I mean… at that time who wouldn’t want to be them. It felt as if they had life figured out… wrong. They are humans and so are you. Although, it’s OK to have role models just be careful when is consumes you to wanting to become someone you are not.

Also, embrace your love for imagination, it’ll go along way. Make that tent outside. Maybe sleep on the trampoline. Grab your dads hand and have a daddy-daughter date. Those are the best. Trust me! ((Daddy’s girl))

Be creative. The playdo that you play with, be creative. The princess castle, go beyond your imagination. The spirit of creativity will serve you well my child. Never loose your creative touch.

That bird, dog, cat, etc that you are trying to draw. Don’t get frustrated. Don’t just walk away from it. You got it. You never know what your hidden talents are until you work at it.

OK, so sports. For me, I was a cheerleader and a gymnast. Whichever it is, go at it with all that you got. Remember, practice always triumphs over failure. That backhand spring. Yeah you might fall on your knees multiple times until the one out of ten times you land on your feet. YAY. Keep at it. Soon you’ll be landing perfectly ten out of ten times.

You want to be a lawyer? You’ve must have seen Legally Blonde 🙂 “Harvard Law School” That was the dream job back then. You change your mind multiple times regarding what you want to be when you grow up. We all do.

To those who condemn you on your choice of career path or any life decision, smile at them. It’s not their life, it’s yours. Just pray about the choices before you make them.

When it comes to pleasing people. Don’t you dare bother. Be polite and nice, of course. Never be a doormat. You cannot please everybody. Focus on you first. Make sure you are the one that is happy. You are not living for them, you are living for God.

Please God.

When you stay up to 2 a.m. in the morning because of studying, close your eyes. You need some rest. Pray.

When it comes to comparing yourself.

How uncool it is that you think you are ugly. God made you perfectly in His image.

How you wish you didn’t have freckles or the gap between your teeth. How you wish you were skinnier.

Those who pick at you for your glasses, short hair, teeth, looks, etc. how dare them. Don’t you dare let that interfere with knowing who you are in Christ and who you are as a person. You are beautiful and perfectly flawed.

You will learn to be gentle with yourself. You’ll also learn how to love the body that you are in.

And later down the road, the right guy is going to love you and think you are beautiful the way that you are.

There will be people who you won’t always agree with and that’s OK.

Let go of the need to control and manipulate–you’ll never change anything that way.

Pray instead, let God fight for His own children.

It’s not your job, it’ll never be your job. SO give it up.

Be thankful that you have a mom and dad who love you and adore you. You are their daughter.  Thank your mom and dad for their unconditional support that they continue to show. Never take it for granite. They do a lot for you.

I know your parents drive you crazy sometimes. You drive them crazy too. Recognize that you’re all so different and all stubborn, and it’s usually worth just saying OK.

You’ll be on your own in time, and then you can load your dishwasher, fold your clothes, make your bead, eat when you want too, and go when you want to as infrequently as you want–for now, be respectful.

Speaking of your parents, all of their different and weird quirks? Yeah, you’ll inherit them. Embrace it sister. It will come.

I know at some point in your life you’ll experience all sorts of emotions.. all at once too, maybe. Hormones, dear lord, a lot of feelings and life itself is all too overwhelming for you to soak in sometimes. When you experience those overwhelming times and when things fell out of hand find your peace in the Lord, your joy in Him, find your strength, your purpose, your identity in Him, and you’ll make it. I promise.

Time goes by fast. Look how far you have come and be thankful for another day of His goodness. You’ve got your whole life ahead of you. Don’t stop dreaming. Do want you want to do. One life, Live it well.

In closing, I want to appreciate my younger self and also congratulate her. She is strong. She is mighty. She is a lover of life.

I am thankful for the hardships because it has led me to be the stronger woman I am today.

I am thankful for the wrongs I’ve done, the mistakes I have made, because it’s taught me wisdom.

In the end, the things we worry about before seem so small to us now.

In time,

God will provide and answer your prayers. Be patient.

Xoxo,

Brittany

 

 

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Molding Myself to Be More Like Him {Spiritual Rawness}

Valuable (Real Talk)

Isaiah 1:17

“Learn to do good; seek justice, correct oppression; bring justice to the fatherless, plead the widow’s cause.”

How do you spend your time in the word? 

Do you receive the spiritual high from a bible study and feel as if that’s enough?
Do you spend time here and there in the word when things are crazy in life?
Do you spend time whenever you feel like it? Whenever it’s convenient?
Do you spend time at all?
The sad part is… most of us have all the intentions to spend quality time in His word, and some of us create habit to do just that but some never do. We set aside time out of our schedule to purposely dig into the word. That high may last weeks or months. It’s like a spiritual high. You are on fire to learn more.

For some, the “digging in His word” becomes an involuntary thing, your priority is set to uphold the readings of His word. However, for others, it may be a struggle to find that time. If that is so, we are basically saying, “God, we have no time for you.”

However, relaying back to “having all the intentions to spend quality time with Him,” some never do. Is it because we are too lazy or do we put other matters before Him? I know for me, I can say both. Life gets in the way and the more and more I put it off it becomes easier to do. Sad!

How can we be a better advocate for Christ and not put our own time into studying His word? In order for us to grow in His footsteps we must take action in learning more about Him and His love.

Hypocrite, that’s what we are. We say we are infatuated with his Love

We say “I love you Lord”

We say “Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins”

We say “Amen”

We say all these things, but yet, how can we grow as Christian’s when we aren’t doing anything in order for us to grow?

Most of us are at a standstill in our relationship with Him. Some are struggling with trusting. Actually,  a majority of us are. That’s where control comes into play. Control is the thief of allowing our burdens, cares, and worries at His feet.

We have our own self desires that come into play with our: Relationships, Work, School, Play, Etc. but what if our desires allow a Godly take on what we say and what we do within those desires.

For Us

His love is rich

His love is strong

His love is free

His love is never-ending

Why is it we shield away from what we know is good for us? Is it a voluntary action that we do or do we allow Satan and other worldly matters stand in the way of what truly matters?

Spiritually naked, that’s how God sees us.

Jeremiah 17:10 says, “I the Lord search the heart and examine the mind, to reward each person according to their conduct, according to what their deeds deserve.”

He sees everything:

He sees our heart and the reasons why we do what we do.

He sees our worry

He sees our wadded up insecurities

He knows when we second guess our actions

What are the opportunities that we have in front of us that we constantly look away from?

To be a strong Christian, we must live wisely

As christians, are we constantly surrounded by non believers? YES. Constantly we come in contact.

Do we tell them the good news about Jesus, the news that allowed us to be forgiven and redeemed?

Seeking God and Speak Faithfully

Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” – Genesis 2:18

I want to grow stronger to be the woman of God that I need to be.

For my boyfriend, future husband, better half. 

Grow stronger in:

Praying for him. Praying with him. Grow and prosper with him. Learn with him. Be a leader. Be a listener. Be understanding. Pray for Godly words. Be a team. Love. Be a Woman after Gods own heart.

For my Family.

Grow stronger in:

Faith. Choosing words wisely. Words that inspire. Praying for them. Encourage them. Grow. Being a stronger Christian daughter. Understanding.

We should all aim to be that strong advocate that displays Christ.

Be Christ-Centered
Be confident in Christ
Showing strength in standing up for what’s right and wrong
Be encouraging
Be nice
Be independent
Invest in that which last. Invest in those who you love.

Out of love rebuke those who are wrong. Encourage. Stay humble. Be aware of when pride sneaks in.  “Don’t think less of yourself but thank of yourself less.”

“Has not my hand made all these things, and so they came into being?” declares the LORD. “These arc the ones I look on with favor: those who are humble and contrite in spirit, and who tremble at my word.” – Isaiah 66:2

Live to please Him only. Serve the Lord and the works of His goodness.

Love God first and foremost!

His love is greater – our love for Him needs to be greater too.

Xoxo,

Brittany

 

 

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To My Man, Alex

An instant connection
I was drawn to you
Babe, do you even know just how much you mean to me?
If you have the slightest clue
I can’t tell you near enough that I love you
There is much more behind those three words
I’m trying to let you know how much you are adored by me and how cherished I am for the sweet time we spend together
You mean the world to me
Do you know that you smile gets me all the time
Do you know that every day I love you more
A closeness to you
A safe place with you
I hope you know that you mean the world to me
Just knowing your mine and I am yours should be enough
To me you mean everything
In you-
I see dignity
I see strength
I see passion
I see you, the good and the rough-edged parts
I love you for all your forms
Though everyone will experience their own ups and downs
I will be the one standing by you, never doubt
Yes true love is more than butterflies and long kisses
It’s about conquering the roughest rides
Holding one’s hand through the storm
It’s about loving strong through the good and the bad times
I never asked for much, just for someone to hold me tight and see me through. To look at my naked soul and love me from within.
Once I found you, an instant connection I was automatically drawn to you
To live with you is what I want all my life
You are my best friend
You are my lover
You are mine
You are the reason for the butterflies in my stomach
You are the reason for the smile on my face
I love you
– Brittany
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Listen To Your Emotions

Our emotions serve as an essential function that connects us to what is truly important – for they remain an important role in our life.

Emotions communicate to others. We know when to feel sad, happy, anxious, scared, and confused. It’s our human nature.

Emotions motivate our actions. Having fear motivates our impulse to turn/run away. Sadness motivates us to heal. Anger motivates us to protect ourself. Happiness motivates us to gravitate to what is making us happy.

Humans naturally and automatically move towards what feels good, and away from what feels bad, including emotions.

I came across an awesome guideline to our emotions and how it teaches us.

Bitterness: Shows you where you need to heal, where you’re still holding on judgment on others and yourself.

Resentment: Shows that you are living in the past and not letting the present to be as it is.

Anger: Shows you what you are passionate about, where your boundaries are, and what you believe needs to change.

Disappointment: Shows that you are tired of something that you still care for.

Discomfort: Shows that you need to pay attention right now to what is happening. It shows you to do something different than what you typically do.

Anxiety: Shows that you need to wake up and that you need to be present in the now. Also, that you are stuck in the past and living with the fear of the future.

Sadness: Shows you the depth of your feelings, emotions and the depth of your care and compassionate to others.

It is because of our emotions how we react to what we think and do.

It’s okay to be upset

It’s okay to be angry

It’s okay to feel stuck

It’s okay to feel confused

It’s okay to feel lonely

It’s okay to feel hurt

It’s okay to cry

It’s okay to not be okay

Above ALL of these. Be kind, be true, be easy on yourself and refuse to let negative feelings trigger.

When I am grumpy – I miss out on goodness around me.

When I am angry – I miss out on love.

Side note –

Meaning behind my choice of featured photo. I love sunsets. I love sunrises. It’s an escape for me from reality. The nastiness, the meanness, and the chaos in the world. It calms me in a way where I find myself lost in the mystery of God’s grace and love. When I am captivated by the artwork of His doing the world around me is shut out and it’s only me and God talking.

All my cares. All my worries. All my fears. They are laid at His feet.

I’ve backslid from just that. I forget how peaceful I become when shutting off from the world for just 30 minutes and just sitting in awe of His masterpiece. That’s all it takes, I ask myself? WOW! Just 30 minutes of my morning or my night to just sit in quietness and peace to enjoy the sunset/sunrise.

Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalms 51:10

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The Problem With Pulling The Kind Card

Have you ever met or been around someone who you find so hard to appease, maybe they’re attitude/ personality is cringingly painful to be around…  OK that may sound harsh but I am being serious right now.

I am here to tell you. We all are surrounded by negativity and mean people – it’s hard to run from. However, it’s how we go about handling the negative that’s around us and the people that we associate with.

You are better off without that! We all are!

As much as we should desire to be kind and giving, sometimes it can be difficult to do just that in our time of day that we live in. We want to be good stewards but we don’t want to be taken advantage of. Like many times in life, this requires a delicate balance of assertiveness and servitude.

If you are heavy on that assertiveness maybe try being a little less sub servant today by allowing others to express themselves more.

I have been told how nice I am my entire life and I love receiving this sweet comment because I am nice. In fact, throughout my life, I’ve tried my best to be kind, caring, empathetic and helpful to just about everyone I come in contact with. My character is very important to be to uphold. These qualities are the bedrock on which much of my identity is based.

But when is being “nice” become “too nice?

“nice” is always good – “too nice” is not

No one want’s to be taken advantage of and maybe being “too nice” can lead to just that and also, heartache, disappointment, and confusion.

The problem with being too nice is that it gives room for others to find you as an easy pushover or someone who is easy to be slick with.

Some may do kind gestures for kind gestures in return… although that is OK, don’t waste your time expecting the same in return with some. If you find yourself as a giving, giving, and giving person but we don’t really get nothing in return, we can easily grow bitter toward the people we constantly are nice toward. Because we don’t see the appreciation, we may feel like we’ve been wronged.

Ways to avoid falling into the “too nice” category

  1. Know when you are taking advantage of
  2. Kindness should be rooted. Be kind in general, not just when it’s being expected
  3. Speak your mind
  4. Have strong self-esteem

Be good toward others without being self-sacrificial. 
 

 

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In the Arms of Your Mercy, I Find Rest

Starve your worries and fears and feed your FAITH!

In spite of anxiety

In spite of being afraid of the unknown

In spite of any negative thought that may cross your mind

We have a loving God who wants us to find rest within Him.

“Because He bends down to listen, I will pray as long as I have breath.” Psalms 116:2

It’s easy to say you are a devoted Christian but are you? I felt as if I was going through the motions- not getting in the word as much as I should be. As a Christian. As a leader that I should be to the lost souls around me. As a follower of God. As a woman of God. I was at a surface level with my devotions. Although, mobile devotions are great – I am not saying they aren’t, but that was not enough for me. A random glance at what today’s daily verse was and what it has to say then go about doing whatever I was doing. I wasn’t actually feeding my knowledge. I wasn’t really learning anything.

Lately, I have been devoting my mornings with Him and getting in the word – to fill my spirit with His goodness, trust, and unconditional love. I’ve seen blessing happened in the midst of my footsteps. Contentment in the unknown. Peace in the discouragement moments. Happiness in the times of stress. However, we are all humans – stress will be stress and can always still your joy – that is, if you allow it. I’m not going to lie, I have been stressed with midterms and I did allow that stress to eat at me. I let it steal my joy and cause me doubt, but I turned to Him. God says, “My beloved, your fight is not against flesh and blood, but against evil forces in the spiritual realm. When you find yourself in the midst of a war, do not be afraid. Call on Me in prayer and allow Me to deliver you. In My timing, I will give you victory and bring justice to the afflicted.”

A quote that really stood out to me was, “Fill your mind with Gods word and you will have no room for satans lies.”

If we as Christians aren’t in Gods word we CANNOT respond with the Holy Spirit inside of us.

I have been blessed with a wonderful small group (Bible study) which surrounds myself with a wonderful group of woman who LOVE Jesus just as much as I do – who pray, uplift, and laugh with each other.

Us a woman, we all have struggles and obstacles but so do men, however, being surrounded by Godly stewards not only uplifts our spirit but also brings knowledge and comfort.

Apart from this:

I’ve been meaning to write a blog regarding my (23) life lessons; since I recently just turned 23. So here is my spill.

Many life lessons have been learned my past 23 years. I am a better version of myself because of them.

Life lessons about love, loyalty, relationships, friendships, self-worth, and mostly about God. I’ve learned what it means to TRULY love Him.

I can honestly say, I am at a good standing ground with my walk with the Lord. I have grown to know Him more and also love Him more deeply.

I am blessed with such Godly parents who encourage me and made it known that the love God has for me is far greater than the love they can ever imagine to have for me.

As weird as it might sound, I am blessed for my past heartbreaks because it’s lead me to realize my worth is not in a man but in God. I’m blessed for the toads in my path because they lead me to a man who grows in His walk with the Lord with me.

I love seeing answered prayers – it’s so refreshing and so GREAT! He sends just the right tribe of people who will take us by the hand and help us back to safety and encourage us by simply believing in us. That means everything to me!

 

Thankful, humbled, and grateful heart.

Xoxo,

Brittany

Self-Love

I Found Balance

The passion I had for fitness and still do just in a different way.

My relationship with fitness was both good and also bad. Far too often I would compare my body to those fitness models on Instagram or Facebook. I would motivate myself by keeping up with their fitness post and motivation (nothing wrong with that at all) – however, it was only torturing me because I’m not them and never will be. I am me, I am Brittany and I am perfectly made by God.

I learned – Life is not a competition and you will never be someone else and they will never be you. You are a jewel in a pile of other thousands of jewels. You are just as beautiful as the rest.

We all have a gift to somehow contribute to this world.

As a young girl, I loved and thrived off of health and fitness. Till this day I still love it.

I think with fitness and all the fitness inspo, it all comes down to becoming the best version of you and looking up to those inspo’s as motivation (such as motivation post), not as role models in the sense of (achieving that certain body type) – that only leads to mental issues and it will eat you up. Promise.

Saying all that I say this. I use to be that girl that would wake up at the crack of dawn to do “fasted cardio” for hours and then back in the afternoon. I felt great and looked great! But that consumed my life. I wouldn’t allow myself to enjoy fun weekends with the girls, I would be picky in what I choose to eat and sometimes I would even bring my meals out to dinner with us. Who does that?  Crazy I know. I’ve been there and to be honest, I am sure a lot of us have. I look back now and think “what chicken and green beans… give me that margarita and cheese quesadillas.”

 I enjoy life and all that comes with it. I choose to live with a healthy mindset with food and I choose to love me and my body.

Us as women it’s easy to feel discouraged with our body and what we wish to look like, whether it be slimmer, toner, or bigger. Just remember, we are perfect in the body that God has given us. Just take care of it!

I found balance. I found balance with my health and fitness when I started personal training. I always had a passion for helping others who can’t help themselves – maybe that’s why I have such a big heart. Anyways, my love for fitness led me to fall in love with personal training. I love seeing growth in one’s personality and in their mental and physical health. It’s a great feeling for me to experience when other people find their inner love for themselves and acceptance. Not only did I help them, they helped me! That’s the joy of it.

I write this and saying, don’t let those negative thoughts creep up in your head. You are beautiful in your own special way. So own it and grow on it.

My future self inspires me every day to become a better version of myself a year from now, in 5 years from now, and 10 years from now. That is what makes me determined and focused on being the best version of myself I can possibly be.