Our emotions serve as an essential function that connects us to what is truly important – for they remain an important role in our life.
Emotions communicate to others. We know when to feel sad, happy, anxious, scared, and confused. It’s our human nature.
Emotions motivate our actions. Having fear motivates our impulse to turn/run away. Sadness motivates us to heal. Anger motivates us to protect ourself. Happiness motivates us to gravitate to what is making us happy.
Humans naturally and automatically move towards what feels good, and away from what feels bad, including emotions.
I came across an awesome guideline to our emotions and how it teaches us.
Bitterness: Shows you where you need to heal, where you’re still holding on judgment on others and yourself.
Resentment: Shows that you are living in the past and not letting the present to be as it is.
Anger: Shows you what you are passionate about, where your boundaries are, and what you believe needs to change.
Disappointment: Shows that you are tired of something that you still care for.
Discomfort: Shows that you need to pay attention right now to what is happening. It shows you to do something different than what you typically do.
Anxiety: Shows that you need to wake up and that you need to be present in the now. Also, that you are stuck in the past and living with the fear of the future.
Sadness: Shows you the depth of your feelings, emotions and the depth of your care and compassionate to others.
It is because of our emotions how we react to what we think and do.
It’s okay to be upset
It’s okay to be angry
It’s okay to feel stuck
It’s okay to feel confused
It’s okay to feel lonely
It’s okay to feel hurt
It’s okay to cry
It’s okay to not be okay
Above ALL of these. Be kind, be true, be easy on yourself and refuse to let negative feelings trigger.
When I am grumpy – I miss out on goodness around me.
When I am angry – I miss out on love.
Side note –
Meaning behind my choice of featured photo. I love sunsets. I love sunrises. It’s an escape for me from reality. The nastiness, the meanness, and the chaos in the world. It calms me in a way where I find myself lost in the mystery of God’s grace and love. When I am captivated by the artwork of His doing the world around me is shut out and it’s only me and God talking.
All my cares. All my worries. All my fears. They are laid at His feet.
I’ve backslid from just that. I forget how peaceful I become when shutting off from the world for just 30 minutes and just sitting in awe of His masterpiece. That’s all it takes, I ask myself? WOW! Just 30 minutes of my morning or my night to just sit in quietness and peace to enjoy the sunset/sunrise.
Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalms 51:10
Have you ever met or been around someone who you find so hard to appease, maybe they’re attitude/ personality is cringingly painful to be around… OK that may sound harsh but I am being serious right now.
I am here to tell you. We all are surrounded by negativity and mean people – it’s hard to run from. However, it’s how we go about handling the negative that’s around us and the people that we associate with.
You are better off without that! We all are!
As much as we should desire to be kind and giving, sometimes it can be difficult to do just that in our time of day that we live in. We want to be good stewards but we don’t want to be taken advantage of. Like many times in life, this requires a delicate balance of assertiveness and servitude.
If you are heavy on that assertiveness maybe try being a little less sub servant today by allowing others to express themselves more.
I have been told how nice I am my entire life and I love receiving this sweet comment because I am nice. In fact, throughout my life, I’ve tried my best to be kind, caring, empathetic and helpful to just about everyone I come in contact with. My character is very important to be to uphold. These qualities are the bedrock on which much of my identity is based.
But when is being “nice” become “too nice?
“nice” is always good – “too nice” is not
No one want’s to be taken advantage of and maybe being “too nice” can lead to just that and also, heartache, disappointment, and confusion.
The problem with being too nice is that it gives room for others to find you as an easy pushover or someone who is easy to be slick with.
Some may do kind gestures for kind gestures in return… although that is OK, don’t waste your time expecting the same in return with some. If you find yourself as a giving, giving, and giving person but we don’t really get nothing in return, we can easily grow bitter toward the people we constantly are nice toward. Because we don’t see the appreciation, we may feel like we’ve been wronged.
Ways to avoid falling into the “too nice” category
- Know when you are taking advantage of
- Kindness should be rooted. Be kind in general, not just when it’s being expected
- Speak your mind
- Have strong self-esteem
Be good toward others without being self-sacrificial.
We only live one life, right? So if we know that why don’t we always strive to live our life to the very fullest?
Live outside the norm, engage outside of your comfort zones, jump into your car and drive somewhere without your GPS. Get lost in this beautiful world that we live in. It’s only our temporary home but why not enjoy the fun of it while we have it. Make the best of memories. Enjoy the thrill and rush of the unknown.
There are many things that we should do more often. Some may be the littlest thing but can mean a lot to you. We should be less concerned with the little bubble we dwell in every day and more concerned with being more in touch with the world around us. There is so much to be offered and so much to explore in this beautiful world.
Just changing something so little during your daily routine could make for something great! You will never know until you put action to it.
- Tell a friend about Jesus
- Get up early and watch the sunset
- Ask a random person for lunch
- Call your parents just to simply talk
- Pay for a random stranger’s coffee at the Starbuck’s drive-thru
- Have a conversation with a stranger
- Put the phone down. There is life outside of your technology device… Trust me
- Go see a movie by yourself. Embrace independence
- Say yes to something. Go. Stop worrying about everything else before life passes you by
- Take a random road trip without using a GPS
- Read a book
- Write a song, blog or story
- Buy flowers for someone
- Tell someone how much they mean to you
- Challenge yourself
- Run a 5K
- Avoid gossip by speaking highly of others
- Make a new friend
- Stop living in fear of the thinking of what others think of you
- Eat that cookie and ice cream. You deserve it!
- Go to a restaurant you’ve never been before
- Be optimistic
- Be open to others thoughts and ideas
- Go to a spa. Treat yourself
- Stop settling less than what you deserve
- Be comfortable in comforting others when they’re wrong or hurt you
- Share a smile
- Kiss your loved one more
- Worship the Lord our God and lay your burdens and struggles at His feet
- Release yourself from the baggage that keeps you from moving forward
- Forgive others who have hurt you in the past
- Use your social media for something good not just posting and looking
- Be more outgoing and full of life
- Pay your bills on time
- Volunteer at an animal shelter
- Volunteer for community service
- Let that person who’s trying to merge into your lane over. I know it’s hard. Just smile and wave
- Tell your professor thank you for teaching you. It means a lot to them, I’m sure
- Do something unexpected for a loved one
- Call that family member you haven’t talked to in awhile
- Have a picnic
- Dance in the rain
- Take more pictures. They are worth more than anything
- Cook a fine and dine meal
- Invite friends over for dinner
- Relax and be thankful for the ones around you
- Be a helping hand for one that is in need. Ex: Taking someone’s groceries to their car.
- Sing at the top of your lungs and laugh
- Go to a random free concert in your area
- Go to the zoo
- Go to a drive-in movie
- Go night swimming
- Live every minute of your life and never take any second for granite. For these are the best days of our life.
Many others can be added but I am going to leave it there.
Whoever is reading this, I pray that you at least take action to do a few of these or maybe all of them. I pray that you continue to thank God for His many blessings that He has for us and appreciate Him in His doings. Maybe God will use you through one of these 52 ideas to be a light to others and build a better community around you.
Take a chance and go run with it!
As Christians, we face many struggles and bumps in the road every day.
So what should we do when we are faced with these trials and tests? The scripture tells us, “all things work together for good to them that love God to them who are the called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28).”
However, when we are faced with these trials, we may ask “Why” me Lord, why am I always faced with these testing situations?
God will never give you more than you can handle. I too have to remind myself that!
The Bible says;
“And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13)
God strengthens our patience and matures us as Christians in character and He forever leads us into an enhanced assurance of His love.
Through faithfulness in times of trial men become “approved” in God’s sight.
The honest truth!
Those who seek Jesus will not be without challenges. In fact, we may be faced with even MORE challenges. However, with these challenges let it all lead you to the cross, and know that He is there for you.
Sometimes it’s hard for us to do because we like that control. It’s our human instinct to want some sort of control – right? We like to handle our own problems and solve/figure out the mess that we are drowning in. Gosh if you really take a look at just that, that’s stress that we are putting on ourselves. If when we trust in His doings – we are letting go of that control.
God says, “My beloved, your fight is not against flesh and blood, but against evil forces in the spiritual realm. When you find yourself in the midst of a war, do not be afraid. Call on Me in prayer and allow Me to deliver you. In My timing, I will give you victory and bring justice to the afflicted.”
He says, here me my child, I’ve whispered in your ear a million times, here me, I’ve died for you. I love you and I will never leave you.
“I will shelter you. Trust me. Stay close to Me,” He says to me.
Starve your worries and fears and feed your FAITH!
In spite of anxiety
In spite of being afraid of the unknown
In spite of any negative thought that may cross your mind
We have a loving God who wants us to find rest within Him.
“Because He bends down to listen, I will pray as long as I have breath.” Psalms 116:2
It’s easy to say you are a devoted Christian but are you? I felt as if I was going through the motions- not getting in the word as much as I should be. As a Christian. As a leader that I should be to the lost souls around me. As a follower of God. As a woman of God. I was at a surface level with my devotions. Although, mobile devotions are great – I am not saying they aren’t, but that was not enough for me. A random glance at what today’s daily verse was and what it has to say then go about doing whatever I was doing. I wasn’t actually feeding my knowledge. I wasn’t really learning anything.
Lately, I have been devoting my mornings with Him and getting in the word – to fill my spirit with His goodness, trust, and unconditional love. I’ve seen blessing happened in the midst of my footsteps. Contentment in the unknown. Peace in the discouragement moments. Happiness in the times of stress. However, we are all humans – stress will be stress and can always still your joy – that is, if you allow it. I’m not going to lie, I have been stressed with midterms and I did allow that stress to eat at me. I let it steal my joy and cause me doubt, but I turned to Him. God says, “My beloved, your fight is not against flesh and blood, but against evil forces in the spiritual realm. When you find yourself in the midst of a war, do not be afraid. Call on Me in prayer and allow Me to deliver you. In My timing, I will give you victory and bring justice to the afflicted.”
A quote that really stood out to me was, “Fill your mind with Gods word and you will have no room for satans lies.”
If we as Christians aren’t in Gods word we CANNOT respond with the Holy Spirit inside of us.
I have been blessed with a wonderful small group (Bible study) which surrounds myself with a wonderful group of woman who LOVE Jesus just as much as I do – who pray, uplift, and laugh with each other.
Us a woman, we all have struggles and obstacles but so do men, however, being surrounded by Godly stewards not only uplifts our spirit but also brings knowledge and comfort.
Apart from this:
I’ve been meaning to write a blog regarding my (23) life lessons; since I recently just turned 23. So here is my spill.
Many life lessons have been learned my past 23 years. I am a better version of myself because of them.
Life lessons about love, loyalty, relationships, friendships, self-worth, and mostly about God. I’ve learned what it means to TRULY love Him.
I can honestly say, I am at a good standing ground with my walk with the Lord. I have grown to know Him more and also love Him more deeply.
I am blessed with such Godly parents who encourage me and made it known that the love God has for me is far greater than the love they can ever imagine to have for me.
As weird as it might sound, I am blessed for my past heartbreaks because it’s lead me to realize my worth is not in a man but in God. I’m blessed for the toads in my path because they lead me to a man who grows in His walk with the Lord with me.
I love seeing answered prayers – it’s so refreshing and so GREAT! He sends just the right tribe of people who will take us by the hand and help us back to safety and encourage us by simply believing in us. That means everything to me!
Thankful, humbled, and grateful heart.
“And if I asked you to name all the things that you love, how long will it take for you to name yourself?”
This certain quote really caught my attention.
Think about your answer.
Think about someone you love and how they may answer it.
You probably hope they’re naming themselves pretty quickly, right? It’s easy to look at them and think, “Gosh, if you could only see yourself the way that I see you!”
I believe God looks at us the same way, “If you can only see yourself the way that I see you, the way I created you. You are made perfectly and wonderfully made.”
My hope would be that I’d list him first, myself second, and my loved ones next. Loving Him helps us to love ourselves. Loving and respecting ourselves allows us to better love others. Isn’t that what life’s all about?